Three years ago today my sweet girl entered the world. We stared in wonder at her tiny perfection and asked one another, "Who is this beautiful stranger?" We marveled at the awesome responsibility of attending to her needs and shepherding her through life. We daydreamed about who she might grow to become.
But with each step along the way, I am realizing more and more that our journey as parents is less about who she will be at some fixed point in the future than who she is becoming day by day. We remain curious about what she might study, where she may travel, and how she will choose to live, but the more interesting work is witnessing who she is today. And doing the same again tomorrow.
Each day we have countless opportunities to observe her with other children at the playground, one her own, and interacting with us. We see how she responds to disappointment, the way she treats others, and what brings her joy. Seemingly insignificant moments throughout the day are opportunities to witness as her character develops, and (hopefully) provide guidance along the way.
The journey also reminds me that my own "self" also remains a work in progress. Today I am a mother, wife, daughter, friend, and teacher, but any one of these pieces of my identity could change in the next moment. Rather than envision the world as I hope it can become and dream of the role I can play, I have an opportunity to sit with each moment as it unfolds and experience who and where I am today.
I invite you to spend time today observing and experiencing the present moment. Rather than race forward in your mind to a desired - or feared - outcome, notice who you are becoming right now...