In every fertility yoga workshop series I have led, I have opened the first session by inviting students to share their stories. While participation in the exercise is optional, inevitably each woman opens up about her struggle to start a family, the obstacles she has faced, the procedures she has endured, and the frustration she has experienced.
The benefits of this exercise are not exclusive to those facing fertility challenges. No matter the adversity you have faced or are facing, giving voice to your challenges can empower you to move forward. Recalling the details of your story can help you separate objective facts from the (often intense) feelings that accompany them. Further, capturing the details of what you have experienced helps anchor them where they belong: in the past.
A history of loss does not guarantee a future of disappointment, and to focus on either is to waste energy that could be better utilized to walk the path before you and experience each moment - good or bad - that comes your way.
Can you let go of past disappointments and attachment to future outcomes? Can you allow yourself to live in the present moment?