Tools for Transformation Tuesday: Name Your Need

A good friend recently remarked that she loves her life when she is able to experience all its component parts. This description really resonated with me. I enjoy my work. I love spending time with my husband and daughter. I derive energy from being active. I adore curling up with a good book. I look forward to connecting with dear friends. I appreciate solitude. When all these elements are present, I am filled with gratitude for this amazing gift of a life; but when something is missing, I feel unsettled... 

There is no such thing as perfect balance. There are seasons of life in which one area will loom larger than the others - just ask any new parent, or an accountant during tax season. But by recognizing and naming the things you need to feed your soul and feel complete, you can be intentional about ensuring you experience them. 

Even when you find yourself struggling to stay afloat during a busy week at the office, you can carve out 30 minutes to meet a friend for coffee. Especially when you feel overwhelmed by responsibilities at home, you can ask your spouse (or hire a sitter) to watch the kids while you go for a run. And when you identify your needs and determine how to meet them, you can build a rhythm that keeps them constant in your life. 

If you are in the midst of a period of harmony, take a moment to observe what is working well - and why. If you are struggling, think about what is missing. Then create a routine that keeps you feeling full and fulfilled. Name your needs - and go get them!