Tools for Transformation Tuesday: Saying No

The (ongoing) road to becoming a yogini mama has been full of twists and turns. Throughout the past two and half years, I have shifted and reorganized my schedule and commitments over and over. After the birth of my daughter, I returned to work full time. A few months later, I recognized I needed to scale back, and a few months after that, I realized it was time to step away from the familiar and carve out a new beginning that would provide the balance I sought.

With each step, I was confident I had discovered exactly what I needed. But while I am certain I made the right choice for myself and my family, I am continuing to learn that "balance" is not a static state. Changing seasons, unexpected professional opportunities, and the needs and desires of my sweet girl at each new age and stage are all in constant flux. As a result, I must tweak and refine accordingly. And as much as I love to say yes, I am realizing I need to say "no" if I want to preserve enough margin to accommodate these shifts and ensure I have the energy I need to devote to what is truly important. 

Entrepreneurs can find countless opportunities to say yes to new business and additional projects. Parents can find innumerable classes, enrichment activities, and play dates to enjoy with their kiddos. Friends can schedule, host, and attend wonderful gatherings, dinner parties, and book clubs. Do-gooders can volunteer at all hours of the day seven days a week. These are all wonderful things that can contribute to a full and fulfilling life, but if you discover they are draining your energy rather than recharging you, it is time to say no. 

With the holiday season fast approaching, take a look at your commitments and opportunities and evaluate whether you have the energy you need for the things that matter most. If not, consider when and where you can say no. Create the margin you need to nurture yourself and your loved ones this holiday season.