This weekend, families across the country will gather to celebrate the women who nurtured, loved, and inspired them. But for the 7.3 million women in the United States struggling with infertility, Mother’s Day is another reminder of the challenges they face.
As someone who struggled to become pregnant, I can attest to the inner turmoil brought about by a day that honors and celebrates the thing you want most but are unable to bring about. The temptation to isolate yourself far from anyone or anything that reminds you of your powerlessness is profound. But it is also a time when support from those who love you matters most.
If you know a woman struggling to become pregnant or carry a baby to term, this Sunday is a great opportunity to let her know you are thinking of her and there to support her if and when she is comfortable sharing. What you say is less important than the act of opening the door to a safe space. Ask how she is doing, and really listen to the answers. Most importantly, let her know you are grieving with her and there for her. She may not take you up on your invitation, but the offer will go a long way toward helping her feel less alone.